I am a fan of Brad Paisley and the stories in his songs. One of my favorite numbers is ‘Two People Fell In Love”. The first part of the song talks about how a baby is born and goes on to become a Nobel prize winner because he has invented something that has saved a million lives. So he has made a big difference to the world at large, and the reason he exists is because two people fell in love!
Every child has the power to imagine the unimaginable. After all, who told the kid that dreams have limits! It’s only when we grow up that we realize that dreaming of being the President of the country or aspiring to become the world’s best F1 racer comes with our own hang ups in life – that there is a thing called ‘impossible’, that life is a prison made of our own shackles.
The curiosity is at its peak when we are young. There’s so much to seek, understand, learn. There’s an urge to navigate, to run through pages, to grab knowledge. As we grow up to become ‘wiser’, the curiosity is taken over by ‘knowing what’s important’, learning for the sake of learning.
The confidence of a child is unbeatable. He is not scared to fail. We scare his soul – “You will fall”, “You will hurt yourself”, “You will not be able to endure”. Are we telling the child to be safe, or tying him to the fear of failure for the rest of his life.
A child who is shy is expected to become an extrovert, a child who is hyper is expected to calm down, a child who talks a lot is told to shut up, a child who doesn’t talk is forced to speak. A child is subject to the expectations of others.
Who teaches the bully to be a bully? Who teaches the child to hit back? They only learn from what they see, not what they are told. Actions speak, words are mute.
It’s hard not to respond when a child laughs, or smiles. Why is that even the toughest of people become a child with a child? Because a child doesn’t judge you for how stupid or intelligent you are in their opinion. A child doesn’t judge you for your beauty or the so called ‘lack’ of it. A child doesn’t care if you are a ‘failure’ in the world’s opinion. A child loves you for reasons that reasons with your understanding of ‘growing up’.
A thing of beauty is a joy forever. A child is a little bundle of joy, innocence, simplicity. A child doesn’t know what riches are, what money means, what is superiority or inferiority. An empty cardboard box to play with is all a child needs, whether he stays in a mansion or a hut. Then who teaches them to ‘show off’ their riches, their fortune?
Childhood is that phase when every little girl is a diva and every little boy is a hero. And they need to be told so. They need to know that they are good at this thing and that. That they are lovely in every way. That their imperfections is what makes them different. That imperfections are to be taken with grace not with disappointments.
They need to be told that life is never going to be perfect, but the effort towards making it perfect is what matters the most. There will be choices thrown at them, hurdles at every step – they need to be taught to look at those obstacles in the eye. Make them strong, not protected. Teach them to respect others not for what they have achieved in life but for what they have become as a person.
A child is a bundle of possibilities. Focus on making him a good person – one who respects everyone, one who develops a sound judgement of what’s right and wrong, one who believes that no dream is impossible.